Wednesday, March 7, 2012

The Love Dare - Day 2

Ooh, I'm already a day behind, not good. But maybe it is okay sometimes, because I might want to discuss more the result than the intent of the Love Dare, depending on the day. Ha, I'm a good "waffler", aren't I? Well, here we go anyways.

In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness. What is desirable in a man is his kindness (Proverbs19:22)

The don't-say-anything-negative portion of the dare was not as challenging as I thought it would be yesterday, but the act of kindness was a bit so. I kept allowing my own selfish pursuits and pleasures get in the way of getting my act of kindness done and I found myself scrambling around like a madwoman minutes before James made it back home, throwing all the garbage cans from the house into the dumpster and running it out to the curb. I did make it, but barely, and it reminds me that too often I fail - citing my own busy schedule. I am busy, but I get to chose what my priorities are in life, and kindness towards my spouse should be much higher. I wanted to share this quote from the book, and I think I'm going to sticky it to my computer for the week "It is difficult to demonstrate love when you feel little to no motivation. But love in its truest sense is not based on feelings. Rather, love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward. You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness."


The Fifes said...

This gets me thinking on what I can do for Brian! It reminds me of one of our Pastor's sermons on the quote "You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving".

Mom said...

I love these post. How'd you get so smart? You have to post on how it went more often. What good ideas though, may have to try it. Hopefully Dad and I have a lot of it figured out after 30 years but you can always learn, right?